The idea of getting back to the authentic self has been heavy on my mind this last month. As humans, we get so caught up with the world around us that we forget sometimes to check in on the most important thing: ourselves.
I am a bonafide people pleaser, who at times, has wanted so badly to make others happy that I lost track of my very own happiness. I became a chameleon molding to what ever I felt you wanted me to be. This meant that each time I changed color to match my surroundings, I lost a little bit of myself more and more till eventually I felt completely empty.
Looking back at some of my destructive behaviors, I now realize that a large part of the destructiveness was because of my unwillingness to dig deeply and find out why I was hurting to begin with. I’ve spent the last five years rebuilding my life and can say with certainty that I am on the right path to self discovery and living a rich and authentic ‘Phoebe.’
During my journey to finding the real me, I was lucky enough to find something that made me shine. Fashion is one element to many in my self discovery journey, but it is a big one. Fashion, style, and being creative has helped me mold into who I want to be, not what I think the world wants me to be. Once I stopped caring, I felt a freedom I had never felt before. That freedom was peace of mind knowing that for the first time in my life I was listening to my heart.
One of my favorite sayings is ‘To thy own self be true.’ There is nothing more empowering then knowing who you are, having confidence, and sharing that with the world around you – it’s truly a gift.
Today, what gift are you sharing with the world? I would love to hear from you :)
My gift today is paying gratitude to Julie Johnson of Third Wheel Photo for taking these wonderful photos. She has such a creative eye and I loved her positive attitude and energy. My other gift is the continuation of my love for thrifting and sharing that with the world. Thrift has so many positive layers to it from being affordable, unique one of a kind pieces, to knowing that for every thrift piece you pick up is one less article of clothing in the landfill. That’s some feel good fashion right there!
Free People romper and J.Crew espadrilles from Crossroads Trading Company ($18 & $25, the shoes were new!) and the necklace is hand beaded from Guatemala.